Twin souls, reclaiming the self

It describes what twin souls should experience when they meet. It explains the kundalini rising and the issues that may arise between them amongst other things.
I want to post this here, even if I meh this kind of things now, to prevent it from disappearing from the Internet. For if what it says is true, then it is an important piece of information that must NOT disappear.

Warning... What follows is going to be an epic wall of text.



What are Twin Souls?
The Physical Meeting
Recognizing The Twin Soul
Other More Profound Ways Of Recognizing The Twin Soul
What According To Our Human Eyes Seems To Be A Withdrawal Of The Male Half From His Female Half - The Difference Between Men And Women
Homosexual twin soul relationships
Twin Souls & Sex
What happens in the twin soul process and why are many sets of twin souls separated?
Synchronicities & Dreams - The Universe Tries To Get Your Attention
Separation & Facing The Self
What does it mean to face the Self?
The question is often asked: What can I do to reunite with my twin soul?
Twin Souls can easily lose themselves in each other
What does "Loss of SELF" mean?
Detachment – How To Liberate Your Soul
Union on Earth
Knowing The Soul
Achieving Inner Peace And Being Present In The Now
About The Healing Of The Soul And Ones Human Self
Understanding Your Unconscious, Psychological "Make-Up", so you can be free to be in relationship
A Full And Giving Relationship With The Inner Self Instead Of Dysfunctional, Outer Relationships And Imbalance.
Enmeshed Relationships
Inner Child Healing
Letting Go and Achieving Wholeness
Healing And Wholeness


"Separation" in this text must be understood as separation in the physical sense. The separation in the spiritual sense is an illusion that was created at the time of Atlantis and during the destruction of Atlantis. The separation was spiritually chosen by the Twin Souls at the dawn of times and they also chose to forget themselves in order to be able to know themselves at the right time. It is the illusion of Separation that has led the world to become as imbalanced as it is this day today. In the same way it was the feeling of imbalance, "loss" of the other half and separation of the ONE soul into two sexes that led to the destruction of Atlantis and before that the destruction of Lemuria. Before that time we only knew harmony, peace, and joy, but we did NOT know ourselves at the level of the soul.

With each and every person you have any kind of relationship with on this Earth, you have a soul agreement. You have preplanned to work out certain issues. You do not only have soul agreements with other people in your life, you also have a soul agreement with yourself. Prior to incarnating your soul has chosen to be born in a physical life in order to learn specific lessons. We have been gently guided before we incarnated to choose the plan for our lives that will give us the most insight in our souls. We choose to incarnate to heal and to feel, but sometimes we also have to face relationships with other people with whom we might have karma from other lifetimes.



What are Twin Souls?

A set of twin souls shares identity energetically. In the very beginning before there was any sense or feeling of separation, twin souls were ONE soul - male and female energies in ONE. There was no separate identity or consciousness of the male and female energies. As a result of the separation at the dawn of times in human history, two different personalities of what was ONE once were created. You can very well understand that when the two halves of what used to be ONE meet again on earth after many years and lives of separation and ”unconscious” longing for each other, the physical meeting and union itself is a very intense, indescribable event at the human level where the two halves of the same soul get to face and feel deep, hidden feelings in themselves that can have been denied for lifetimes. The feelings that can have been denied throughout many lives could have been that the twin souls have had to deny WHO they really are at the very core of their soul. There could have been many reasons for this, but most likely people tend to feel alienated from themselves because they have felt that there were outer standards or other people they have had to live up to. The "trick" is to realize the time when one did experience a loss of self due to the influence or expectations of other people.



The Physical Meeting

When the twin souls meet physically, many experience a deep kundalini rising and fusion that leaves the twin halves forever changed. It is such a deep experience, so that the twin souls cannot go back to how they were before the meeting, because through the intense union a stronger sense of Self of each of them has been born which means that they will be forced to look upon themselves in a completely different way. It might take years for one to feel how much one has changed in the Self due to the twin soul union, but as time goes by an integration or birth of ones real self is starting to take place. For many this will happen during some sort of separation from the twin soul. When twin souls meet and merge into each other, the extascy of feeling the ONENESS is unlike any other love union the two persons involved can experience on earth. Twin Souls are still ONE soul, but they are also a product of their human lives and existence away from each other. This means that the paradox of being one, also means that each of them has each their different individuality/personality that has been created during the times of separation. On these grounds when you meet your twin soul, you will meet a separate human being, unique in him/herself with his/her experiences of life. Many people think that when you meet your twin soul, you meet yourself. To the degree that twin souls share the same blueprint energetically this is true, but when you meet your twin soul, you will also meet a human being that because of the physical aspects of being human can have lived a life either very similar to yours or completely different. It is true that twin souls often share interests, but they are still two separate human beings. Meeting the twin physically on earth is a deeply personal and very transformative experience due to the fusion of the two into ONE. If the twin souls are meant to unite physically, spiritually and sexually, nothing can stand in their way of union. This means that very often twin soul couples will experience an intense feeling of ”love at first sight” and despite the fact that they might not know each other physically before they meet, they will nevertheless merge intensely into each other at very deep levels. When twin souls meet and merge into each other after they have just met and it is ”love at first sight”, it will often leave them with a feeling of mystery and wonder as to what happened.

The union of the twin souls and merging into ONE again leads to a process that the twin souls very often must go through individually. This means that even if they are in a ”relationship” with the other half, individually they will go through a process of facing deep issues within themselves as a result of the twin union. The twin souls will grow from their physical meeting and change very deeply, but a very profound and deeply personal process and transformation starts with the first merging of the twin souls. Many sets of twin souls experience a short meeting very often early in life and from there they separate, not necessarily because each of them want to, but because there is no other way for their shared soul to begin to grow individually. The purpose of their first, and perhaps short merging on earth to begin with in this present life is that they will again reunite at a later time. They will and can reunite at the time when they are SAFE and STRONG in their individual Selves. Other sets of twin souls know each other throughout life and stay in close contact, but they will still be forced to face issues in themselves individually, because they have merged so deeply into each other. At the first meeting when the twin souls reconnect at the physical level, they will merge into each other to experience the ONENESS again and in their shared soul this feeling of ONENESS cannot ever be forgotten, but they cannot be TWO IN ONE, if they don't know HOW TO BE THEMSELVES individually. The reason why they cannot be TWO IN ONE if they don't know who they are individually is that they cannot depend on the other half to get a sense of Self and to get a feeling of who they are individually. If they depend on the other half to get a sense of who they are individually, they will never be able to exist as individual human beings on this earth. They will never be able to find peace, harmony, and balance in themselves individually because they will need the other half to give them what they need to find in themselves individually. On earth we cannot live in a "merged" relationship without having a strong sense of individuality. A lot lot of people will probably say: ”of course I know how to be myself – I have lived as myself my entire life”, the thing just is that the whole feeling of who a person really is at the level of the Self, changes deeply as a result of the twin soul merging. This means that before the merging with the twin soul a person could have had an idea of who he/she is, but meeting the other half of oneself leads to an awakening of the Self and an even stronger feeling of the person he/she really is deep down. Through the twin soul union you get to open up to deep feelings and a knowledge of who you are in the deepest corners of your soul. You will be overwhelmed with feelings you never thought possible. The identical energies of your twin soul has pushed you further into yourself. You have become more of what you already are.



Recognizing The Twin Soul

The twin souls recognize each other instinctively when they meet. This means that it is not a conscious recognition where both of them state that they are twin souls. It is not a physical recognition, but a recognition that happens in the soul. The twin souls are drawn to each other, they merge instinctively and become ONE the way they have always been. In order to really know that your twin soul is your twin, you must meet and merge with him/her physically. You cannot know that your twin is really your twin unless you have met and merged with him/her physically, emotionally, spiritually or sexually. The merging at the physical level is very important in order for the twin souls to ground their relationship and twin soul process on earth. Twin souls meet physically to be "forced" to be present on earth, so that they can feel fully and be in their physical bodies. This day today many say they meet their twin souls online. This can be true, but if you have not met your twin in body and felt the intense union, you will not be pushed further into your own Self as a result of the union. Sometimes twins do not unite sexually, but they can still meet physically and merge spiritually. The physical meeting itself no matter how it is can lead to the union of the energies, but with a physical aspect such as for instance sex, the twin souls are pushed further into their individual selves. There is a huge difference between having met and bonded with the twin physically and staying in some sort of correspondance online where the communication is more intellectual than it would be if the twin souls merged physically. If the twin souls meet physically the union will happen as a result of the deepest instincts in both of them. When you recognize your twin soul, you will see yourself in the eyes of the other half. You will feel that you have finally come home and when you talk with the other half, it feels like you have known each other forever. All of it will seem very natural and the sexual union with the twin soul will feel like the most natural thing in the world. During the spiritual, physical and/or sexual union of the twin souls, they will experience a kundalini rising. This means that all the chakras will be activated, they will merge at all levels. The people who experience kundalini rising feel that they have been connected with their Higher Selves and a process begins where the knowledge of you being a spiritual being becomes even more intense after the twin soul union. Kundalini rising is like getting strong electricity through your entire physical body. It can be such an intense experience, so not only will you feel an out of body experience and another state of consciousness, but you can also experience physical change afterwards as a result of the twin union and the powerful kundalini rising, because you pick up on higher spiritual energies. Very often the kundalini rising can also lead to a person being less physically grounded on earth. Exactly for this reason it is even more important to get in deep contact with the physical body in order to stay grounded on earth when it comes to the twin soul process.



Other More Profound Ways Of Recognizing The Twin Soul

Twin Souls usually merge into each other when they unite physically and spiritually, but besides from the twin souls experiencing a deep and life-changing union, there are other ways you can know that you are in the same room with your twin soul. You can recognize your twin soul's voice even though you have never heard his/her voice before. Hearing your twin soul's voice will often sound as the voice of your own soul speaking to you and you recognize the voice in a deep place within yourself. This in itself is a very profound experience, knowing and feeling you are recognzing a voice you might have never heard before. It feels like a welcoming voice inviting you home. Your twin soul's name although you have never heard the name before might be familiar to you, almost as if you already know the name of him/her. It is almost as if you feel that you could have had that name had you been the opposite sex of what you are. Your twin soul's name will almost feel to you as if it is the perfect name for him/her. There can be many reasons why you recognize your twin soul's name. One of the reasons could be that before you incarnated you and your twin soul made plans to meet in a physical life and at this time before incarnating you already knew the name your twin soul was going to have in the specific physical life. If you are younger than your twin soul, you have incarnated at a later time and you might have observed your twin soul's early years in the physical body before you incarnated yourself. You might also feel that if you had incarnated as the opposite sex of what you are, you could have looked exactly like your twin soul. Twin souls tend to look alike physially from time to time even if they don't have the same sex, race, or age. Some twin souls experience a huge weight loss as a result of the union both because of the shock of meeting each other, but also due to the kundalini rising and intense energy exchange between the two of them. I heard of one woman who lost 10 pounds withing one week because of her meeting with her twin soul.



What According To Our Human Eyes Seems To Be A Withdrawal Of The Male Half From His Female Half - The Difference Between Men And Women

Many female halves acknowledge to themselves directly that they have met and bonded with the male halves of themselves. The female halves are naturally connected and one with their feelings. The male halves seem to be living less in their feelings and therefore according to the women the men seem to be less emotional. The real truth might be a different story. And nothing is this ”black and white” when it comes to twin souls. Sometimes it feels to the women through their human eyes that the male reactions to having met their female halves will lead to the men withdrawing emotionally from their female halves. At the human level the female half will often conclude that her male half didn't recognize her as his twin soul because he did not openly declare and acknowledge the twinship or tell her how he feels deep inside. Female halves long to hear that their men know the truth of them being twin souls. As a woman the female half wants to hear the very words ”twin souls” come out of his mouth. This is what many women long to hear from their male halves. To me twin souls make out a whole and a unit. This means that at the soul level both do recognize each other, but the reactions to this recognition vary between the male and female halves. The female halves live so much in their feelings and they often find it very difficult that their male halves seem to withdraw and in some cases the shock of meeting the other half and uniting at such deep levels lead to the twin souls not being able to talk at the human level about what actually happened. The female halves tend to want to talk about the connection openly, but talking can be painful or difficult for the male half, because he could have been living less in his feelings for many lives. It often seems to the man that his woman can "read" him and he tends to not like to feel vulnerable around her. What the man doesn't realize is that if he allows himself to be with one with his feelings, he would also be able to "read" her, and she would feel vulnerable as well. Conflicts between twin souls often arise when the female twins long for an emotional reaction from their male counterparts and for some reason the male halves do not feel ready to open up. Female halves are so much one with their feelings, so sometimes they tend to push things instead of ”letting go”. Female "halves" tend to act directly on their feelings because they want an emotional result of what they feel. We don't realize that as male and female "halves" we are more alike than we think. All of us have both male and female energies in us and if we can achieve an inner balance within ourselves, we can understand the other half more clearly. And therefore there would be no misunderstandings between men and women. We don't always see as clearly with our human eyes, compared to the eyes of our souls.

The female polarized twin soul carries the fruit of the twin soul union, but this doesn't mean that the male "halves" don't possess wisdom. If the men surrender to their inner female, they get access to the inner wisdom within themselves. When twin souls meet physically, the male half is the one who gives his female twin "access" to the wisdom in her soul. The male half does "need" the emotional and spiritual insight of his own inner female and female twin, but if the twin souls have been separated for many lives and have many wounds in them due to past lives, difficult relationships and time apart, it can be difficult for him to open up and "accept" the knowledge offered to him by his female half and inner female. It is a question of inner balance. It is important to know that it is not possible from the human point of view to control the twin soul process itself. The only thing that you can control as a soul half is yourself. Many female halves tend to overfunction in many aspects of their lives, both when it comes to family or their men. Overall this has to do with a deep fear of loss. Overfunctioning always has to do with trying to help other people. It means that you don't trust other people to be strong enough to deal with their own healing or growth, and at deeper levels it has to do with lack of trust in yourself controlled by the fear of a deep existential loss. Therefore, female halves must "connect" and unite with their inner male, balance themselves, and let go of doing, taking action, and living in the illusion that they can control things.

IN WHAT WAYS DO FEMALE HALVES OVERFUNCTION? Here are 2 examples from real life. These examples sound perhaps a bit far out, but they are real life examples. Women do tend to go very far in order for their men to see the light. A man and a woman meet under rare and difficult circumstances. None of them could have planned this meeting by themselves. They are drawn together and experience a union beyond words. It becomes clear to both of them that together they are more than can be put into words. It seems awkward for them to talk about. The woman is being given clear signs that this union is very unique. She gets scared of losing him, wouldn't know what this loss would do to her. She is not sure that he has realized that they are twins, so in order for her not to lose him, she sends him a thousands mails when they are apart, talks about their connection when they are together. And she frequently fears the time they do spend apart. It has to become clear that according to her he cannot leave her, because they are twin souls and twin souls are not meant to leave each other. He begins to feel her anxiety and the more she talks about spiritual matters, the more he feels pushed back and sees no other way than that he must have his space. It is too much, too overwhelming for him. Finally she sends him Joudry/Pressman's book: Twin Souls, Finding Your True Spiritual Partner, so he will get the picture!

Another set of twin souls meet. Their relationship is intense. The female half, very in tune with her feelings, clearly feel a spiritual opening in her. She loves studying "metaphysical" stuff, she is an intellectual woman and in her mind's eye, she clearly understands her union with her twin soul as a relationship that has been orchestrated by divine forces. She begins writing a book about this, but needs other peoples' experiences as well to understand fully what she is going through. So she tells her lover:, you know we are something very special and I am going to write about this. He does understand that they are special together, but the fact that he feels how serious she is about all this, about writing a book, makes him feel a lot of pressure. This pressure influences their relationship. She continues her story project and finds other people online who have experienced union with their twins. She also uploads her story online, writing their full story on a messageboard and online community. She doesn't tell him about this and one day he uses her computer and finds her story ABOUT HOW THINGS ARE by seeing the url to the community where she has posted their story. Now, this is too much. He wants things to be quiet, just between the two of them. Why does she have to share this with the entire world? She is experiencing spiritual growth in her and sharing with the world seems to be the spiritually natural step, also to show him how serious she is about them being twin souls. She wants him to grow with her in the same way and being open about this in every way seemed like the way to go for her. Women mostly overfunction because they long for a real and open relationship with their male halves. And many women feel that the only way to get the relationship is to function as an eye-opener for their men. Women tend to do too much in an active way to get what they want, because they fear loss at deeper levels.

When you are presented with your twin soul, you are at the same time presented with what you once lost that made you lose your way at the beginning of time. This is the reason why women overfunction. Unconsciously, they feel the loss and they will do whatever it takes to prevent loss from happening again. Women do not realize that by searching within themselves, they can achieve what they look for. The loss happened inside of themselves long time ago when the women also lost themselves at deeper levels. Women often have to realize that if they want the "relationship" with their other half to work out in a positive way, they have to work out and face deep wounds within themselves as souls. Some people often find themselves in other difficult, karmic relationships that have to do with deep inner wounds from other lifetimes that weren't healed and these wounds really do need attention and to be faced in order for people to grow closer to their twin souls.



Homosexual twin soul relationships

Sometimes a set of twin souls incarnate as the same sex. There can be many reasons for this. All twin soul relationships are between male and female energies of the same soul. This means that it doesn't matter if we think of ourselves as heterosexual or homosexual. If you meet your twin soul, one of you will be the female half and the other will be the male half, no matter what gender each of you have. This means that each and every person that meets his/her twin soul will go through the same processes that I have described here. When you meet your twin soul, you will be forced to face your Self.

When we talk about heterosexual or homosexual relationships we focus on the gender of the physical body instead of the gender of the soul. At the level of the energies when twin souls meet, they will be drawn to each other no matter what gender they have. This means that sometimes the male and female halves of the same soul meet and both of them can be incarnated in women's or in men's bodies.



Twin Souls & Sex

The Sexual Merging The sexual contact between twin souls is very primal, raw, and at the same time highly spiritual. The instinctive kind of sexuality between twin souls means that at the human level it can be hard for the twins to put these feelings into words and it is, therefore, only in the sexual act that the ”real” talk between the two of them will be expressed. The more the twin souls merge sexually, the stronger they get in their individual selves. The twin souls were always one, but at their physical and sexual merging into each other, they become the WHOLE SOUL, and there is no individual sense of who is who. The individuality of each of them cease to exist when they merge into each other. They are ”just” ONE and feel this ONENESS. They can stay in this feeling of ONENESS as long as they are merged into each other, physically, spiritually and sexually, but when the merging into each of them stops and they start being two individuals again, the feeling of the loss of the other half is so painful, so that at the very level of your own soul you can feel that a part or half of yourself is missing. Sexually there is a clear distinction between the male and female half of the same soul. Energetically the female half is the one who ”surrenders” herself to her male half in the sexual act. He, on the other hand, is the one in sexual lead in the act of love making. This means that with the twin souls, there is a male and female kind of sexuality. It is all a reflection of their male and female energies and how each of them is at the very level of their soul. The understanding of the male and female halves must be understood in the way that during our many physical incarnations the male and female halves of the twin souls have both tried to be both men and women in physical lives. This means for instance that the female half, incarnated as a physical man might have met her twin half in another life incarnated as a woman. This still happens in our time and age, although there is a tendency that many twin souls that do meet and unite, have incarnated as their REAL SEX, meaning WHO THEY ARE AT THE SOUL LEVEL and THEREFORE they must identify with their physical body to be their REAL SELVES. At the soul level this means that the each of the halves polarize and become even more man and woman while they are still united and balanced with the inner opposite gender within.

The intensity and complexicity of the twin soul relationship on earth leads to the fact the twin souls often separate if they are not ready to be together at the human level. A remarkable inner journey starts to take place after the twin souls have merged on earth. They have become ”more” themselves than what they were before. A new sense of Self of who they are at the very center and core of their souls has been born. They feel changed, but often at first it can be hard to put into words exactly what has happened. The separation is therefore, often, ”planned” before incarnating such as the meeting is also ”planned”. I do not want the word ”planned” to sound too metaphysical, but what happens is that at the human level it feels like the twin souls are ”forced” apart to grow individually. Now growth has nothing to do with being a better soul, for the twin souls the spiritual growth has to do with the accelarating sense and feeling of the Self. It is a journey into a new sense of consciousness of ones Self. Very often people who have been united with their twins feel helpless when they feel and see that they are being separated from their twin souls again. The separation leads to a lot of pain, anger, and frustration. Sometimes the separation from the twin soul is so painful so that people get physically ill, because they feel the part of themselves missing and it almost feels like missing a vital part of ones physical body. This can lead to physical illness. During the separation the twin souls must feel and reconnect with their own inner selves to be able to feel the bond with their twin souls. The union and merging has led to the fact that their newly joined energies have made them deeply telepathic with each other. If you think of the fact that the union has made the two one, you can very well know that if you have met your twin, you can never be sure if what you feel is your own feelings or the feelings of your twin. As the twin souls are separated after the merging, some will begin to search in the outer sense for the twin. They will do everything possible to reconnect with the twin in the outer sense, so they do not have to feel the loss inside themselves. This outer search is very painful and sooner or later one will feel that there is no other way to connect with the twin than to reach for the deepest place in ones own inner Self. It is a journey where a soul who has experienced the loss and separation from the twin, will begin to feel very different and alienated from other people who have not experienced meeting their twins. When you feel the loss of your twin you can feel alone when you are around other people, because noone else, but your twin knows you the way you know yourself.



What happens in the twin soul process and why are many sets of twin souls separated?

When people first realize that they are being separated from their twin souls and it all seems out of their hands to control, many will find themselves in a state of panic and desperation. Being separated from the twin soul, feels like a deep loss of yourself. This loss is incruciatingly painful and at times a soul half, feeling the loss of the twin soul, can find it hard to know what to do with these feelings. Sooner or later you will begin to feel that you must ”surrender” yourself to the spiritual and very emotional process that starts to take place at the inner levels. You realize that exactly when it comes to the twin soul process, you don't seem to be able to be in control. You cannot control when and how to reunite with your twin soul. This means that the entire twin soul journey begins both with feeling the ONENESS with the twin and from there feeling the loss of the twin and feeling the loss of oneself and the ”person” one used be with the twin, before there was any of separation at the dawn of times. I feel that when you have felt the union and ONENESS with your twin, you also feel and have an unconscious memory of how you used to be before you experienced the separation and split from your twin soul in the beginning of human history. No matter how the journey is of each twin soul couple on earth, each of them will after the merging, be ”forced” deeply to FACE THEIR INDIVIDUAL SELVES. There will always be an intense mirroring between twin souls, but the mirroring can feel more intense if the twin souls haven't faced their inner, individual selves and wounds. In order to heal your wounds you must face your inner self and learn to accept yoursef for who you are, otherwise the reflection of your twin soul will feel very intense and you will feel there is no place to hide (from yourself).



Synchronicities & Dreams - The Universe Tries To Get Your Attention

If you have met and bonded with your twin soul, physically, emotionally, and spiritually, you will most likely experience a series of synchronicities and dreams that reveal to you that you go through a unique, spiritual change in your life. You might already be aware what is going on, but sometimes if you look for an ”external” explanation, you can experience that the universe gives you specific signs. This could be revealing dreams where you get to see the truth of the matter. You might even have prophetic dreams where things about to happen in a near future are revealed to you. Synchronicities tend to come our way if we have a struggle with our intellect of some kind and we try to convince ourselves that we don't really go through this, we have just made it all up. Sometimes things seem too profound and overwhelming to be true and having been faced with the other half of our own being can just be too amazing to be true. Therefore, the universe sends us Synchronicities to show us that we are heading in the right direction. I can give you an example of a typical synchronicity that I know a woman experienced after having been united with her twin in real life:

She was a young woman, had experienced an intense union with her twin soul and they had separated because of the intensity, so they only had a short relationship. The pain of separation was difficult and painful to deal with, but the woman felt she had to move on. At the time she did not fully understand the concept of twin souls and what all this meant, so she continued her life, hoping that one day the right man would come along and the next time she would have a different kind of relationship where she wouldn't be faced with such a difficult and painful separation. Her twin soul was a bit older than her. What happened was that her brother who really liked her twin soul had said about him that he looked older, had these wrinckles around his eyes and a dreamy look in his eyes. Okay, the woman knew that he was about 4 years older than her, but this was not enough to make him old. He hadn't passed the age of 40 nor 50 yet. He was a young man. One day the woman started working a new place and co-worker of hers who was very friendly said without further reflection that she looked older, had these wrinckles around her eyes and a dreamy look in her eyes as well. Now the woman knew that this was exactly what her brother had said about her twin and from then on she knew that she was going through a very special and mysterious time in her life. Her co-worker knew nothing of her twin soul experience. She hadn't told anyone. This synchronicity was actually meant to show her how she and her twin are ONE at the soul level. What could be said about him, could also be said about her. They are of the same energies. She was heading in the right direction even though she was separated from her twin soul. She was meant to meet him and was also meant to experience the separation she was facing.



Separation & Facing The Self

You cannot get to your twin in anyway if you don't face yourself. You must face all issues in yourself in every way and individually. You cannot get to your twin soul if you feel something is missing inside of yourself.



What does it mean to face the Self?

Many people who have been united with their twins and experience some sort of separation whether it is an actual physical separation or an emotional one, will very often feel that if only they could be with their twin souls in some kind of relationship, the deed would be done. This is also the reason why many female halves try to take control directly when it comes to their male halves. In desperation many female halves try to reach out for their male halves in one way or the other. Often the female halves therefore try to control the whole thing by actively trying to make the male halves move towards them. Often the female twin souls long for an emotional ”feedback” from their male halves and for this reason female twin souls tend to take emotional lead when it comes to their male counterparts. All this is done out of desperation for the other half. In reality at the level of Self, this will never work out. The reason for this is that each of the halves is forced to face their individual selves and the female halves are ”forced” to not to actively reach out for their male halves, but to reach inwards for their inner Selves.

The male halves must also face themselves individually from their women. They must do their own work, in their own time frame and way. This can be very hard for the female twins to realize and to accept. The facing of the Self has to do with balance and individual healing. You are not balanced if in desperation you want your other half more than you want yourself, so that you don't really care about yourself. This is often the situation for many female halves. They will find themselves in this imbalanced state of being until they realize that now is enough, I must get back to Myself now, take care of Myself and honor myself as a soul half. Many female halves are very empathic with their male halves and this can very often lead to the female halves wanting to be there for their men in every way. For the male halves the situation could be that they are so not used to feeling their feelings, so they depend on their female halves to feel for them. Again this is an imbalanced state of being for the male halves, they must feel on their own. They must be in their feelings and take the risk of feeling vulnerable emotionally. Unconsciously many set of twin souls, therefore separate, so that they can start facing the Self fully. Without knowing it and despite the deep pain of being separated, many sets of twin souls have chosen at the level of their soul to separate for some time, perhaps years, so that they can start facing themselves. Some twin souls do not separate in the same dramatic way that other twin souls separate, they stay in touch, deeply connected and for them it can be a harder journey to face the individual selves, because when you are presented with your very own twin soul, you so much a part of oneself, so you can actually can be confused about what is really your Self. It is easier to face the Self when there is a complete physical separation. For this reason many sets of twin souls are today separated, because the actual physical separation forces each of them to FEEL and FACE their individual Selves. Often it is exactly wounds within oneself that keeps one separated from the twin soul, and focusing on "getting" a relationship in the outer sense with the twin soul can prevent one from facing the inner wound that could be the actual cause of the twin soul separation in the first place.

Sometimes twin souls are in relationships or married to other partners and they can nevertheless meet and merge on earth in sexual and spiritual union, very often the physical union with the twin forces the twin souls to take a look at the actual relationship they are in. It can be very hard to stay committed to a (marriage) partner when a person has been with his/her twin soul, because at the level of the Self even in another relationship, the loss of the twin will be felt. This means that when you are with another partner and think of your twin, you will feel alone in this relationship. Eventually you will also feel that you cannot be true to that partner or yourself, because the longing for the twin soul and being true to ones inner self can be too intense. You will suddenly feel that you live a double life. A life where you are with that partner, but you will not feel that he/she sees your true self and a life where you long to be true to yourself and to live an authentic life perhaps with your twin soul or just with yourself. When you deeply start facing your own Self, you will often find it necessary to be in ”isolation”. It seems necessary to be in this isolation, because you must feel very deeply what is you, so that you are not distracted by other people, situations or circumstances of life.

I believe that the hardest mission any sets of twin souls can face on earth, is the misson of facing the Self. With the merging and union with the twin soul, you get to feel your Self again, you become conscious again and you start asking yourself questions and you also feel that there are things in life that you don't want to put yourself up with anymore. You cannot anymore just watch your life from the outside , you need to take part in it. Some people will claim that when it comes to the twin soul process, it all happens spiritually beyond ones own control, the truth is that the twin soul process is really such a deeply personal process, so that it forces you to be 100% present in your own life. You must face your life, yourself here and now. You must be a soul fully alive in your physical body. You might not be able to control the overall process that has to do with your twin soul, but you can control yourself. When you feel that there has been a loss, not of just the loss of your twin soul, but also the individual loss of yourself, you will feel feelings that are not spiritual at all. It can be intense feelings of anger, hurt, unconditional love for the twin, and pain of separation. I think it is very important that you feel these feelings in you so that all your energies can flow freely through your physical body and soul. You cannot get to your twin soul during time of separation if you do not feel how deeply you at times have felt the loss of your own Self and the loss of your twin soul. The only way to the twin is therefore through your Self. You must feel all feelings to be grounded, otherwise you will never really be present here in your physical life. We have chosen to be in our physical existence to feel. When you face your self you will at the same time feel the pull from the identical energies of your twin soul. You will feel that you can only get back to your twin soul, when you are being your true and honest Self and face all the deepest feelings and wounds within yourself. Twin souls couples never completely face the same issues, yet it seems that all people who bond with their twins sooner or later must face themselves individually.



The question is often asked: What can I do to reunite with my twin soul?

The truth is that the answer is not simple. In fact the twin soul journey is very complex. I believe that it is a fact that God wants us to be conscious and take actively part in our own journey. This means that if you want to reunite with your twin, you must become fully conscious of your own Self. If you are unhappy in whatever situation you can find yourself in, you must make a change to your life. You can change you. And if you want to change your life, you must change your Self. It is a fact that many women and men deep down want to be rescued, this means that many times people who know of their twins, wait for something to happen in the outer sense, so they don't have to do the inner work that is necessary to unite with the other half. If you desire to be rescued you will have lost your own sense of Self. This means that you will have lost your sense of direction in life. You will be waiting for something to guide you without feeling that if you become conscious of your own Self, you will eventually feel what is the right path for you. I believe that it all flows from the Self, if you know your Self, everything else will fall into place. Therefore, it is not a question of knowing the Self of your twin, but knowing your own deepest Self. So how can I get to my twin soul then? You must make the decision that you must get your Self back in every single way. You cannot get the Self of your twin soul back to you, if you don't have your own Self back to you first. Your twin soul will always mirror back to you whatever situation you find yourself in. Therefore, your twin soul can actually mirror back to you that you are lost. You must regain control of your Self to not feel lost with your twin soul or in your twin soul situation. A fact is if you feel that you are lost in whatever situation you are in, your twin soul will mostly likely also feel lost. You might not be able to talk to your twin soul openly about this, but a fact is that if you feel that you are lost energetically, your twin soul cannot help, but to pick this up in his/her own soul half. Therefore, it is a question all the time of getting ones own inner Self back and in this way to be staying in balance. It is about achieving a ”realization of the Self”. This means that in your individual Self of who you are, you have potential gifts and longings with what you want to do with your life. Some people will say: I just want to be with my twin soul – that is all I want to do with my life. The truth is if all you want with your life is to be with another person, twin soul or soul mate, you will not have achieved any ”realization of your own Self”. You will not know who you are or what you want to do with your life. You will have lost your sense of Self.

Self Realization means that instead of focusing on your twin soul, you focus instead on using all your God given talents and this way becoming the whole you that you can be. You become ”whole” in you. Now wholeness does not mean that you do not need other people in your life. Wholeness means that you are strong and safe in your Self. You trust and know that you can be yourself 100% without feeling that you are missing something inside of you. You use all your God given gifts and potentials to turn yourself more into you. In this way you are completely true to yourself, you use the abilities and gifts that you have. For this reason it is no longer a question of the twin souls being each other or trying to be each other, but a question of each of them being their true individual selves, actively living a life according to their full potential, doing what each of them does best. They are ONE soul, but two individual, two selves.



Twin Souls can easily lose themselves in each other

The twin soul relationship is the relationship on earth where you are most likely to lose yourself in the other half. Some will say that if you are strong in your Self, this cannot happen, but one thing that has to be taken seriously into account when it comes to the twin soul is that love is very seductive. You feel unconditional love for the other half and this feeling can actually lead you to become Selfless in your love for him/her. For this reason the twin soul relationship is all the time also a relationship that one has with oneself. One has to be aware and conscious about not losing oneself to the twin on many occasions, because when the loss of ones self happens, both twins will be lost. The paradox is of course that you cannot merge into the other half without losing your self in the union.



What does "Loss of SELF" mean?

Your longing and desperation for your twin soul is so intense and so painful, so you will do everything possible to be with him/her. In this way you ignore your own self, lose your inner balance and don't really care about yourself. I am sure that many people who have met and merged with their twins recognize this situation. Here it is again a question of taking oneself back fully and to be acknowledging to oneself that I must be Myself fully to GIVE and RECEIVE love. Even though you share the same energies with your twin, you have your own qualities and gifts that make you the person you are. You need to be you, the whole you that can be to be a magnet to your twin soul. Your twin soul cannot be an ”entity” that you want to connect with to feel more complete and whole within yourself. All living people on Earth are physical, so when you meet your twin soul, you will meet a human being with human feelings, not just a perfect soul entity that can give you everything you feel missing inside of you. Your twin soul is the other half of you, a whole human being, but there will still be human flaws, weaknesses, desires and talents of that person. Everything that makes him/her human. This also means that even though twin souls are ONE energetically and can merge into each other, sometimes at the human level they will still experience human conflicts. Sometimes at the personal level twin souls don't necessarily get along. Other times twin souls struggle with differences in personality.



Detachment – How To Liberate Your Soul

It can be difficult to be fully present in your own life and focus on your own growth and spiritual change, if you are too emotionally involved with your twin during some sort of separation or other testing times. It is very difficult for a human being who knows his/her twin as a physical human being to let go of being too emotionally attached to him/her, simply because as a human being it is hard not to be too spiritually, emotionally, and physically attracted to ones own twin soul. When we focus too much on another person in our lives who is important to us, we focus less on ourselves and this person becomes the center of our lives. Sooner or later this ”other-focus” gets in the way of ones own soul liberation and spiritual growth process. One difficult step is necessary and that is as much as it is possible you must try to detach yourself emotionally, so that being involved with the other person doesn't keep you from growing spiritually on your own. Detachment means that you trust your twin soul to be strong enough to handle his/her own growth without your emotional interference.

Detachment also means that you trust the higher powers enough to know that you cannot be responsible for other people, so you let go of trying to control other people emotionally or otherwise. Detachment is a tough lesson to learn, because as human beings we are used to being driven by emotions in our relationships. We cannot control who we love or how we feel, but feeling very strongly for another person can be a ”detour” when it comes to ones own growth, because we get to focus on the other person. We try to change the other person where it is only ourselves that we can change. For twin soul couples detachment is necessary, but difficult to learn because twin souls are so much part of each other energetically. Detachment is a healthy necessary step, because as you take your mind off the other person and focus on yourself instead, you give both yourself and the other person the change and space to grow spiritually and as human beings.



Union on Earth

Uniting with the twin soul on Earth in a relationship has do do with readiness, especially individual readiness of each of the twins. Each of them must have achieved an inner sense of WHOLENESS which will make them feel that although they are part of each other, they are still two individuals, whole in themselves. One of the most important reasons why WHOLENESS is important when it comes to twin souls is that twin souls must be two whole selves so they will not experience a constant loss of Self in their union.



Knowing The Soul

The feeling of separation did occur in some sense, because we cannot KNOW the soul unless we have felt the separation at the inner levels of our own soul. Separation can both be separation from God, our own inner selves and the separation from the twin soul. You cannot know WHO you are at the very center of your soul unless you have felt a part of yourself missing. The journey is very complex in this sense, because in order to unite with the other half, you must realize that separation as we know it took place so that we could KNOW the self and the soul. Inner WHOLENESS must be achieved, because even when the twin souls are "separated" - the "fragments", the twin halves, are a WHOLE in themselves, although they are a spiritual unit together.



Achieving Inner Peace And Being Present In The Now

When people meet and bond with their twin souls, they often feel that they have a special mission or job to carry out for mankind. This is a topic that has been discussed a lot amoung people who write about twin souls. I like to be humble, because I feel that stating one has a specific mission tends to make one superiour to other people and that doesn't feel right. We are all alike, we all have the same possibilities. We can all become spiritually enlightened, but in most cases we achieve the spiritual goals as a result of hard and giving work of our souls. We all have the answers that we need when we need it.

Focusing on the "mission" ahead in the future can be very misleading, because people stop being present in the now and instead they focus on what they don't have. Maybe twin souls have planned a certain "mission" that they are to do in their physical lives, but we have all made plans before we incarnated as to what we are to learn in our lives. My feelings are that the real mission more has to do with people healing their souls, facing the relationships they already are in and just being straight honest with themselves. It is a mistake to think that something better is ahead of us, if we cannot be present in the now. That is actually more wishful thinking. I have seen how people tend to focus on what they feel is their mission, so they focus on uniting with the twin soul and stop looking at whatever relationships they might already be in. We don't realize that we are already exactly where we are meant to be in the now even though it might be painful what we go through. Our souls have chosen to experience what we do for growth purposes and these lessons might already be part of our souls "mission" on Earth. Other people and relationships are in our lives to show us where we are in this present moment. Our souls have already taken on a mission by being born in a physical life and the mission started when we first opened our eyes in our new physical circumstances.

It takes a lot of honesty and healing to be able to "work" with ones twin soul. I have often seen how some people who have bonded with their twin souls become so focused on helping others so they don't consider the actual situation they are in themselves. We cannot heal other people or help other people heal, if we haven't healed our own souls. Healing doesn't mean that we are meant to be perfect, but we are meant to work through our issues and maybe see our lives in a different and a more real perspective. It is because we can see a more "whole" "view" of our own lives that we can guide people a little bit or offer some kind of help by just listening, but each and every soul has to walk his/her own path him/herself that is completely unique for that specific soul.



About The Healing Of The Soul And Ones Human Self

I recommend all people who go through having united with their twin souls on Earth to start helping and healing their inner child. I feel all people must work through their woundedness to be able to love fully. All healing comes from within. I am sceptic about people who say they can help you heal, because HOW can you heal what you are not conscious of? Real healing is, in my opinion, bringing consciousness to areas of ones life that one was not aware of before. The healing of the inner child is especially important, because if you don't heal your inner child, all the things you do as an adult will be based on the wounded inner child. It is important to try to see and understand that you did in fact choose your earth family for growth purposes. You must try to heal the difficult times you have gone through in life to become your full self again. You must free yourself from the "limitations" that the interactions with your earth family can have placed on you. When we interact with other people, or people close by such as family members we tend to see ourselves through the eyes of the people that were there when we grew up. When you set the inner child free and become fully yourself, you finally leave the nest and become an adult fully in touch with yourself, listening carefully to the inner child's wise advice to you. Love is not meant to be expressed out of woundedness, but out of fullness. It is actually the woundedness that often prevents people from fully uniting, because as long as they are wounded inside, they are not free to be fully themselves. The woundedness blinds you from seeing who you really are and to be that person. The most important gift that a child and newborn baby can be given in this world is that the parents understand that the spirit and soul of this baby is an intelligent being that existed before it entered this world. This soul and spirit must be given the opportunity in the physical world to express its Self and Soul freely without limitations. We are all souls, but woundedness takes a longer time to work through, and therefore healing is even more essential.

Releasing Feelings, Anger, Hurt, and Pain From Childhood to Heal and To Feel Fully. The inner child needs immediate healing. The cry of the wounded inner child and the reactions to being wounded makes people with wounded inner children reach out for outer relationships to fill the gap they feel missing inside themselves. In our world as it is today it has often been the wounded inner children that have been in relationship with each other based on wounds from their childhood that they did not heal. There has been an intense mirroring between people and their wounded pasts from childhood. Therefore, although a sexual and romantic relationship has been between two physical adults, it has actually been their wounded inner children interacting in a dysfunctional relationship.

People often fear their anger because in our time and age feelings have been repressed, but to heal all feelings must be felt and lived through including the anger. We attract what we are ourselves, so to be able to attract a full and complete person, we must heal inner wounds in ourselves, heal the self fully to be able to be in a relationship based on love and not based on past wounds. Releasing the painful feelings need to be done in a healthy way which means that we need to have understanding of our own feelings of anger and then go to a place and cry them all out. Releasing all difficult and painful feelings will lead the soul to a place of tranquility and peace. You will finally be able to see yourself for who you are because you don't have the repressed feelings standing in your way for being your full and complete Self. The merging with the twin soul will ”force” people to go through a deep inner healing and the twin soul relationship with two whole individuals is based on two people who have gone through a difficult inner healing process in order for them to be together.



Understanding Your Unconscious, Psychological "Make-Up", so you can be free to be in relationship

Unconsciously people also tend to work out emotional and tensed relationships with parents and childhood issues with partners in adult life. In order to be fully free to be with the twin soul or a soul mate and NOT bring painful issues to the relationship, people need to recognize if and when they might have been seriously wounded by their parents in some ways, because their parents could be wounded too in their upbringing. If for instance a woman did not get the attention or love she had hoped for from her father, she tends to either search for men who are like her father who give her very little attention and therefore she continues to search for the attention she didn't get from men who are emotionally unavailable or she might search for the opposite in men and try by all means to get everybody's attention. This is was just one example. There are others and I am sure you can come up with others if you deeply examine yourself and your past relationships. Searching for attention/ trying to get somebody else to meet your needs is not the way to go if you want a meaningful relationship in the outer sense. You can very well understand that if you are to be in a relationship with your twin soul, you need to understand your unconscious, psychological pattern and mechanism well, so you can be free to be in the relationship, and not have past wounds you unconsciously try to work out through the relationship. If you are in a relationship with your twin soul and have not faced these wounds, everything could be magnified and felt. Things could get intense and there might be a constant flow of energy back and forth between the two of you where each feels the other person's wounds and traumas. Therefore, by getting to the heart of the matters and understanding yourself deeply you can begin to attract meaningful relationships to you that reflect WHO you are at the very level of your soul.



A Full And Giving Relationship With The Inner Self Instead Of Dysfunctional, Outer Relationships And Imbalance.

Getting closer to the twin soul can only happen in one way and that is working on ones own individual self and growth. When we work on healing our individual selves, healing wounds from the past, we get into alignment with our Higher Self, Creative Center, and Spiritual Power. The world is so imbalanced this day today with so much separation because people both in personal relationships and worldwide try to fix other people in the outer sense to get some kind of inner peace and balance. This will never work out, we need to hold ourselves responsible for our own inner selves and lives. We will never be able to fix other people, because even in trying to do this, we do not realize that we hold other people responsible for our own misfortune and we cannot change our own personal lives as long as we focus too much on other people and their roles in our lives. A dysfunctional relationship is a relationship that is not giving to the soul. It drains you energetically and keeps you emotionally distracted from your own inner self. In facing a dysfunctional relationship you need to ask yourself why you allow another person to disrespect your boundaries and the essence of your being. You need to ask yourself why you cannot be honest with yourself and why a disrespectful relationship is good enough for you? If you want to unite with your twin soul in the outer sense, you must first align with your own inner self and be able to live a satisfying and full relationship with yourself. If you don't have a full and giving relationship with yourself where you respect your own boundaries, wishes and hopes for your life, you will draw people into your life in the outer sense in forms of dysfuntional relationships that reflect your own inner imbalance.



Enmeshed Relationships

You are more likely to have a symbiotic and enmeshed relationship with someone if you are seriously wounded within yourself. An enmeshed relationship is a relationship where there is no room for two invididuals and for each of them expressing and being their real individuality. An enmeshed relationship exists because the two people are so wounded that they are and cannot be their full selves, so each tries to compensate for the loss in the other. All this happens at the unconsciously level. If we heal our childhood wounds, we are more likely to succeed in relationships in our adult lives, because we do not anymore act out the wounds in the relationship, nor try to heal the wounds by having our partner help us putting a band aid on the deep wounds within ourselves. A symbiotic and enmeshed relationship will never work out in the long run, because sooner or later the wounds will surface and it is when the wounds surface in the relationship that the honeymoon is over. Most likely we learn to be enmeshed or seek out symbiotic relationships because we are not whole, some of us have might even learned to be in an enmeshed relationship while we were children. Sometimes parents need and "use" their children to be enmeshed with them because they are so wounded inside. Wounded parents use their children so they can get their needs met because they lacked emotional support throughout their own upbringing, so they used their children because they were so wounded themselves that they did not know what to do other than to go to their own children in times of need. This is how we were damaged during childhood. We were damaged when our parents didn't meet our needs and we could not be ourselves fully and instead we had to fulfill their needs. If you are raised and your parents don't support the person and soul you really are, you grow up and feel something is missing and something is wrong with you, and you will not have a self to give away in a relationship. If you were not supported as the soul you really are during your upbringing and childhood, you will constantly be in a struggle with yourself, because you feel ashamed and unworthy inside. My reason for writing this is that as much as I know people want to read about twin souls, then there are many psychological things to consider when it comes to relationships, souls, and people. You cannot be free in any way unless you face the childhood wounds. It is the childhood wounds that prevent you from being yourself, and from being the person you really are. Twin soul relationships are NOT and cannot be enmeshed and symbiotic relationships, although you share the energies with your twin soul and might have faced the same traumas that your twin has. Twin souls tend to travel identical roads and face the same issues within themselves.



Inner Child Healing

What always puzzles me is the limitations that other people, parents, and "society" as a whole can place on a soul's and person's individual growth. We all know that as a child, there are certain expectations and things parents want for their children, especially parents often want their children when they reach a certain age that the children find out what they want to do with their lives in terms of career and so on. We all think that in our time and age, all of us are completely free to do whatever we want with our lives even when we are adults. The truth just is that unconsciously and at the level of our very soul we are deeply influenced by our parents and how things were when we were children and younger. Parents have hopes and wishes for their children and unconsciously this influences the decisions a person makes later in life. In fact this is very toxic for a soul's growth and ability to stand on its own. Everyone must find their own true path in life on their own. It seems that what parents don't realize or face about themselves at very deep inner levels of their souls can be passed on to their children. This means that a child might find that he/she must fit in a certain paradigm where he/she in real life doesn't fit in. The parents influence on their children is crucial for a child's growth both as a human being and as a soul later in life. The best way to influence a child is not to expect anything, but to allow the child's full personality to come to its right. Later in life when the child is grown and searches for his/her own path in life, setting one free of the expectations and denials of ones parents has to happen first before one can start being oneself and can live according to ones soul. Setting oneself free from the influence of ones parents is especially painful and difficult. You must see yourself freely without limitations. Do not judge yourself, but allow yourself to be free. Denials are what we or other people don't face about our own selves. The only way to face denials is to be completely honest with yourself and how you feel deep isnside. Often people fear the truth and feel that the truth is too painful. Actually it is only the truth that can set you free and can allow your soul to fly to unknown places. Facing the truth, ones inner self is like an inner explosion where tons of heldback energies float out in the open air. It is the only kind of real, personal power that one can have. The hard thing to realize is that denials of other people, close family members can hold you back from being yourself completely and in this way the denials they have about themselves are passed on to you and you take them on as your own. As you start changing and you become more yourself, you must give other people their denials back to themselves to deal with. In this way you set yourself free from being in prison energetically. Other people must deal with their own stuff. And each and every soul walking on this earth must find his/her own place. You are not responsible for the feelings of other people, but you are responsible for your own full and complete person. You cannot carry other people on your back, you are only responsible for your own healing. The profound thing about the spiritual journey as a whole is that as souls we often learn from limitations and setting ourselves free from what prevents us from being ourselves. We have prechosen the circumstances of life that we have been in.



Letting Go and Achieving Wholeness

One of the hardest things in the journey towards WHOLENESS is letting completely go of the thought that one must have the other half, the twin soul, to feel whole within oneself. This Journey is in itself a paradox, because the physical and spiritual union with the twin soul on Earth makes one feel that one is half of a whole. Each half is in itself created as a whole and it is the thought or feeling that something is missing that prevents twin souls from reaching within themselves for wholeness. Letting go does not mean letting go of the love for the other half, it means letting go of the thought that one is incomplete and needs something in the outer sense to achieve wholeness and to be whole. Our society as it is this day today is based on how incomplete people feel they are, therefore they look for a partner in the outer sense to complete them. This is the reason why many people make a big deal out of their wedding days and anniversaries. People focus so much on how things look in the outer sense, because very often they do not feel that they are fully respected in the eyes of society unless things look a certain way. They must keep up their appearances. People do not realize that one day they might "wake up" and realize that they can't "find themselves, their own Selves", in the relationship they are in with their partner, because they were never whole to begin with. In our time and age people often start out their relationships by being two halves trying to make a whole by joining forces, only if two people are not whole to begin with within themselves, they can never find wholeness or happiness with another person in a successful relationship. A successful relationship is based on two "wholes" making a union. When two people are individually whole the relationship they have will not be a relationship influenced by any kind of projections or hidden agendas each of them might have. Two "wholes" come together in freedom, fully free to be their individual, whole, and imperfect selves.



Healing And Wholeness

Many people who unite and bond deeply with their twin souls today will often find themselves in a dilemma, because when you unite with your twin soul, you will feel that this must lead to a "normal" relationship in the earthly sense, but the twin soul union in itself demands often more of us than we first see with our human eyes. This is the reason why many people find themselves in a separation from their twin souls. Deep inside they feel the separation within themselves. This separation is very painful and what is often very hard to realize is that in order to heal the separation we must heal our own souls first. You cannot heal the separation from your twin soul by "getting" him or her to fill the hole within yourself in some kind of relationship. How you fill the hole has to do with reconnecting with your own spiritual self. As long as you are disconnected from your self, you will feel an intense longing for your twin soul. Your twin soul is the mirror of what you are missing inside yourself.

The twin soul union is not only a catalyst of spiritual growth, it is also a catalyst so that one can achieve spiritual wholeness and will start healing the most wounded parts of oneself. You can have been wounded in ways you never really paid attention to before, but the twin union tends to make people aware of how seriously wounded they were as souls in childhood or some time in their lives. It is by healing the childhood wounds, reconnecting with the inner child and spiritual self that you can heal the separation within yourself in the inner sense and secondly can heal the outer separation from your twin soul. When you feel the separation from your twin soul and long to be with him/her, you long to be yourself, the whole of youself, and how you become your full Self again has to do with healing the parts of you, reclaiming the parts of you that were lost sometime during your life. You have the key to the answer you are looking for.

As you start healing your own woundedness, you will see that separation as you feel it from your twin soul also has to do with how you were separated from your own spiritual self through painful relationships with other people that prevented you from being your own full and true self. To most people who have been united with their twin souls it will come as a surprise to them that the longing and heartache will and can end, but it doesn't have to do with their twin soul finally uniting with them in a merged relationship where two are one. In reality the longing will stop because you have done the work necessary to heal your soul, so you don't feel something is missing in you anymore. If you are to unite with your twin soul in the outer sense it will no longer be a relationship where two become one, it will be a relationship where two healed wholes add more wholeness to their union. They will never again feel the painful separation if they are physically separated from their other "half", because they have healed the inner separation in the first place by healing the wounds in their souls. This is what the twin soul union demands of us.

The spiritual Reunion with your twin soul is secondary compared to the healing of your soul, but it is the intense physical and spiritual union with the twin soul that sets the whole healing, growth, and spiritual wholeness process going inside of us as souls.


by Camilla Kanstrup
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